Termination of Parental Rights... today I begin that process... Terminate Allen's father's rights, free Allen for adoption and get his name change done. It will take about 6 months with the whole process of termination, home study, background check and all that. But somewhere around Allen's 2nd birthday he will legally become my husbands son.
There is a part of me super excited to get the process going~ Allen and David are so close already. Seeing them together you would never guess that David hadn't been there from the day Allen was born. The two of them love eachother so much~ you can just see it.
Then there is the part of me that is sad...
Allen's biological father, despite the sick and twisted things he did in his life, really loved Allen and was there for the child until his incarseration. I know it will grieve his heart that this is happening. Yet, he made choices in his life. He chose to do the things he did that caused him to not be there for his son. So although I am a little saddened that this is happening, I know that it is the right thing to do.
There are times when I still want to just reach out and smack Ron upside the head, knock the stupid out of him, for what he did. He victimized so many innocent people with his actions. Allen is just one of his victims... one of his luckier victims.
So the papers are started, soon we have the first hearing. With any luck, Ron will not fight the termination and that part will go quickly. If he does fight it, it will still happen, it will just take a little longer. Not a big deal if it does, because even if it isn't "legal" David is Allen's Daddy and Ron, for all intents and purposes in Allen's life, is dead.
Now I am off to get things taken care of for my family (summer vacation is almost here! YAY!)