Monday January 11, 2010

Wow this new year is just running by SO fast!

It is already the 11th! How in the world did that happen? My baby is working on the second week of his second year. I don't know where the time is going already! My year has already been busy busy busy and is not looking like it tis going to slow down much!

Some really good stuff has been going on. I have had several dates with a couple of different guys already this year. One of the guys asked me why I was dating multiple people...

It was pretty cool to be able to look at him and say "You seem like a nice guy, but I have no commitment to you or anyone else that prevents me from dating different people." He seemed as if he was a little put off by the comment.

After that conversation I talked to a friend about the date. She made me laugh. She went on this rant about how guys (and actually a lot of females) have this expectation that if you go on one date with them that there is this commitment. She called them the "exclusion" daters... the folks who think you should exclude all others once you date them but actually should be excluded from being dated because they are morons.

So he called me up from another date~ I let him know I wasn't going to be able to go out for a couple of weeks as I have a lot of things going on. He asked what was going on, and I was rather elusive... So my daughter, in all of her infinate wisdom, rather loudly says "My Mom has a date with someone". He hears, he says "Oh so you are still seeing other guys?" "Yeah" this brings about a conversation about "exclusive" dating... Like I told him during the conversation...

Exclusive comes ONLY after there has been an AGREEMENT by two people that they will only be seeing eachother because at that point they are confident that the person they are dating is going to be the person that they marry and wish to spend the rest of their life with.

I can look back on my life and see how I so put myself into a corner with little options because of "exclusive" dating. I am excited at this new phase in my life~ where I get to date as many different men as I chose, not be tied down to an exclusive thing and be able to have fun and enjoy myself. If at some point I find myself feeling as if a more exclusive relationship might be better then I can look at things then and reevaluate... because I know I am not tied to forever dating multiple people either.

Other than my baby boy growing up and dating...

There are other big changes coming in 2010... I cannot wait to share more about them!